In today’s highly competitive world, students face a variety of academic problems including exam stress, lack of interest in attending classes, and failure to understand a subject. This leads to total frustration in the student community which leads to student anxiety. Students’ lives have probably become more difficult than ever.
If your child has given ten papers and his marks or grades do not meet your expectations, you may reprimand him or call him too sluggish, but you should also look at the extent of his success. Try to figure out the reasons for the drop in grades and find them out with your child.
In today’s world, there is a lot of competition and in this race, parents are pushing their children to get the top position. If their position comes up, they appreciate it a lot, mention their success to their friends, share their achievements on social media, and so on. On the other side, when children’s numbers are low or they have just passed, they are embarrassed and rebuked. It seems to them that they have passed but by not taking the position they have committed a great sin. They are compared with other position holders in the family or friends. Parents themselves ridicule their ‘passing’ children. Parents consider failure in one thing to be a failure in life, they think that now the road is blocked it is not possible to move forward. Contrary to their children’s failures or expectations, they do not tolerate or encourage the performance of the children with courage and fortitude. Parents do not try to figure out the reasons for failure due to lack of courage, they do not tell their children that failure and success are a part of life.
The road to any dream is strewn with times of failure. And while failure sometimes necessitates a change of plan, it usually indicates that it’s simply time to get back up and try again. Remind your child that the journey is not over. There is always another test, another recital, another ball game, another chance to say the right thing, and another chance to overcome the challenges.
Give your children a chance to congratulate them on their success and provide them with happiness, and encourage them on their failures as well. Praise your child, even if he gets 4/10 in an exam, praise him in front of others. Never favor one child over the other. Ernest Hemingway said “No victory or defeat but effort counts more.” We don’t really know the inwardness of effort and therefore hardly ever teach our children how to put in the effort. Usain Bolt won 8 gold medals in 3 Olympics, and he only ran for less than 115 seconds on the track, earning $119 million dollars. That’s an economy of effort. But for those 2 minutes, he trained for 20 years. Train your children on how to put in the effort.
Every parent wants their child to get good grades. Now, where is it possible that all the children in the class are equal? Children who get good grades are praised and encouraged. But at the same time, the child who gets low marks is subjected to severe humiliation. I have never heard of a child being consoled by his parents at a low score, no matter what, if you go to the field with better preparation next year, the world will be yours. There is value to being optimistic when it comes to attaining your goals.
We lack courage and fortitude. We consider a temporary failure to be the failure of our entire life. No one tried to find out the reasons for this failure. The reason may be anything but the pressure is put on the child. Sit down and talk to them to find out the reasons why the baby is weak. Look at your own situation, because sometimes the home environment does have a bad effect on the child. Talk to him and find out the facts. Make a new constitution. Don’t celebrate your children’s failures, but don’t make his failure a life and death a problem.
One such incident took place in India in which a student Ashuviyas did not succeed despite his hard work but his father had created a marriage atmosphere at home. Drums were being played loudly at the door. Fireworks were being set off on the roof and a tent had been set up on the walls of the house. While the father had invited his friends to participate and there was a dinner program for them. It was as if the son had accomplished something great. The son whispered to his father: “You have misunderstood me. I do not pass.” But the father did not listen to his son and danced. He later told everyone that Ashobi is my son. He should pass or fail the test. My son will still be my son.
Just as the father-son relationship is maintained when he has passed the test, the relationship should be maintained even if he fails the test. Success in life is not dependent on success in exams, nor was it the last test of life. There will be many more tests to be faced later in life. I was with my son yesterday and I am still with my son today I will continue to hold my son’s hand and arrange a similar grand ceremony for his temporary failure. I want to tell my son that I am not one of those parents who considers a single failure in exams a failure of life and the son is forced to commit suicide out of fear of his parents. Always try to look on the brighter side of life. Optimism is positive, future-oriented, and empowered, a general belief that things will work out in your child’s favor with a little more effort. Optimism appears to fuel our efforts in achieving personal goals, and also improves the overall quality of our experiences while doing so, by increasing happiness and reducing stress. Less stress also reduces the likelihood of mental distress, a common side effect of striving. These characteristics are what allow them to persist in the face of obstacles, holding firm to their belief they can overcome any barriers.
Through this eventuality, I would like to convey the message to parents that give your children a chance to congratulate them on their success and provide them with happiness and encourage them on their failures as well. Be supportive and support them in preparing for future life exams.
