Following are the mistakes you make as a couple that affects your child’s mental health:
1- Saying mean words about your partner in front of your child
- “Your father is very irresponsible, he is not a good person.”
- “Your mother is very selfish, and I don’t want to talk to her.”
Here the child may fear for family stability and form a negative opinion of one of the parents. Children are not emotionally developed enough to handle such scenarios.
2- Making your child dispute mediator
- “Go and convince your mother about it.
- “Tell Daddy to stay home and don’t go anywhere.”
- The child is already frightened by seeing parents fight
The child now goes to mom/dad with the most innocent face and says with eyes full of tears “Mom, talk to Dad.” Children need to be protected from the moment they feel the burden of solving parental problems.
3- Saying something to your child about what another parent said about them before
- “Oh, do you think your mother is right?
- “Does she know that she calls you careless and disobedient?”
- “Don’t take your father’s side,” he says even worse behind
your back about you
Tell them what they told you when they were kids just to impress your partner. Anger greatly affects their self-esteem. Both can fix the difference, but these are the statements that will stay with your child forever and effect the child’s mental health.
4- Telling your child to spy on the other parent
- “Hey baby, can you listen to what mom says to grandma?”
- “Go with your father and ask him something they talk about, tell me about it when you come back”
It’s like depriving a child of innocence. Now they are engaged in adult conversation.
5- Teaching your child to keep a secret from another parent
- “Don’t tell dad I checked his mobile”
- “Don’t tell mom I smoked”
- you are confused, scared, and guilty
and vulnerable
Remember that
If you have healthy disagreements, it’s good for them to see how you resolve them. When your relationship is going through a rough patch, keep the issues to yourself. We must preserve the innocence of our children so that they do not grow up prematurely. Try not to put them in stressful situations.
