It was the month of January, and the fog used to spread before evening. One of my friends took me to a funeral on one such gloomy evening. The deceased was a 25-year-old young man. He was married and had a daughter. After offering the funeral, it was learned that the boy had committed suicide. Hearing this, I was more shocked that even though I was young and had a daughter, what happened to the point of suicide? On finding out, it was found that the mother and sisters did not like the boy’s wife at all and they used to ridicule and taunt the boy day and night. Sometimes, he was awarded with the title of Ran Mureed, sometimes demands were made to grant a divorce. The boy would often say that I am the father of a daughter and my wife is also the daughter of a father, so why should I put a stamp of divorce on someone’s daughter’s forehead without any reason and get away from my daughter by giving divorce. He would say to his mother you are my mother, it is my duty to respect you, so if you get angry about something, you should take it out on me. But the mother did not feel pity and thus the boy sank into depression. He had been rendered absolutely speechless by the torment of day and night and the invasion of thoughts. Finally, depression claimed his life, according to the narrative told by one of my acquaintances.
Undoubtedly, depression has become the biggest disease of today’s era. And the first major reason for depression is the distance from Allah and the second major reason is to say with great regret that we have close relatives. If you talk to any person in today’s era, you will definitely find him in depression. If someone commits suicide due to depression, then the reason is not any other but domestic failures, problems and ridicule, and constant torture of their own people.
Keep a close watch on yourself, if someone seems upset, talk to him immediately and find out the cause of the trouble and let him know that he is not alone. In today’s era, every person has become so busy that they do not have time to give even to themselves. A few minutes of meeting and two words of love can prevent someone from taking any decision of suicide. You can avoid losing someone forever. Give time to all your relationships, give them love, and reassure them that no mistake, resentment, or fight in life is too big to take their own life over. One can try to solve the issues by sitting together.
“If you save one life, you save the life of all humanity,” the saying goes”.
So you can also prevent someone from committing suicide, you can save him. And the best thing is to stop oneself from this bad action. You may reach whatever level of depression you want, but never forget that your Allah is with you.
In this regard, I have remembered a verse of Surah Towba, the meaning of which is something like this:
“Allah is enough for me, there is no god but Him.” In Him is my trust and He is the Lord of the Great Throne.”
Have you not read how much Hazrat Ayub and Hazrat Yaqoob (AS) were patient? Why didn’t they go into depression then, the answer will be that they trusted in Allah. They trusted him that whatever he does will be better for them. So we should also work with patience. If the mental stress is increasing, go into prostration and pray to Allah for peace of mind. He is kind and compassionate. He will surely accept our prayer.
In today’s age, every relationship is suffering from depression. Somewhere wealth is becoming a cause of restlessness and someplace unnecessary desires are causing mental stress. Someone is crying because of broken hopes and someone is getting hurt by bitter words.
In my view, the only solution to avoid depression is Tawakkul on Allah. Trust in Him. Start forgiving. If you learn to share love, you can get rid of a disease like depression. One can be saved from losing oneself and one’s own.
