We often have unrealistic expectations of our partners, wanting them to fulfill us in a multitude of ways. But there’s one quality that stands out above all when choosing a lifelong mate kindness. So says a new study of college students from six countries. It beat out money and looks as the top trait young people find most desirable.What young people around the world want most in a partner.
The study carried out by the UK’s University of Swansea involved the dating preferences of 2,700 students in the “Eastern” countries of Singapore, Malaysia and Hong Kong, and the “Western” countries of UK, Norway and Australia. While some differences in behaviors were noticed across the world, there were also clear similarities.
For the study, participants had to “buy” characteristics they wanted in a partner from a fixed budget. They had eight attributes to choose from for spending their “mate dollars” physical attractiveness, creativity, good financial prospects, kindness, humor, religiosity, chastity, and the desire to have children. What young people around the world want most in a partner.
Responding to different budgetary scenarios, the students were asked to figure out which traits were necessary, indispensable, and which were luxuries.
On average, the young people spent 22-26% of the total budget on kindness, making it a necessity. Outside of that, men found looks most important, while women favored partners with financial stability. On the flip side, traits like chastity, creativity and the desire for children emerged as luxuries for both men and women, getting less than 10% of the budget.
Here’s a chart of key findings:
BUDGET SPENT ON DIFFERENT TRAITS BY GENDER
| Trait | Men | Women |
| Kindness | 25% | 24% |
| Physical attractiveness | 23% | 17% |
| Good financial prospects | 12% | 18% |
| Humor | 15% | 14% |
| Wants children | 7% | 9% |
| Creativity | 8% | 6% |
| Religiosity | 5% | 7% |
| Chastity | 6% | 5% |
As interesting cultural difference that emerged from the study was that while humor was considered indispensable for men to people in all cultures, it was a “necessity” only for the Western men. It’s less of a priority in Eastern cultures, suggests the research.
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